When it comes to weddings, there are plenty of chances for mistakes and many questions to be answered, whether they are about tradition, etiquette or something else. Some brides and grooms ditch the rules altogether, while others want to stick with tradition and do things as expected. We asked our Palm Beach Brides Facebook fans to give us their best “wediquette” questions and promised an answer, so here they are!
Facebook fan Tara Pregnolato asked:
What’s an acceptable time frame for sending the ‘Thank yous’ after the wedding? 3 months? 6 months?
According to Wedding Paper Divas, Tara’s question is quite common! They say a bride and groom should not wait longer than six to eight weeks after the ceremony to send out their thanks you cards. If you receive gifts in the mail prior to the wedding, you should consider sending thank you cards to those guests as soon as the gifts arrive. A great suggestion is to set a goal of how many cards to write per day—and then they will be done before you know it!
And Facebook fan Stacy Tibbetts Stine asked:
“…I was wondering what other couples may have done to honor parents that have passed.”
Weddings are already emotional events, and celebrating such a special day after losing a parent can be tough. Many couples choose to honor their deceased parents, either at the ceremony or reception.
Here are some suggestions from Carley Roney, editor-in-chief of The Knot on how to honor deceased parents or other relatives:
· Include a poem or story about you parent in your ceremony program or hand-out
· “Save a seat” for them in the front row at your ceremony, designated with a single bloom
· Include a story about them in your toast
· Wear something from them, or incorporate it into your bouquet
· Choose one of their favorite songs to be played either at the ceremony or reception
· Include photos of them and memorial candles on your sign-in table
Here are some other common wedding etiquette questions and answers:
Q:Can I invite someone to the bridal shower but not the wedding?
A: Everyone invited to the shower should be invited to celebrate at the wedding as well. Usually the shower guests are the close friends and family of the bride and groom.
Q: Should we let single wedding guests bring a date?
A: This question has been debated time and time again. If you budget allows, you should let single guests bring a date if it makes them more comfortable. If you are on a tight budget, it’s better to invite single guests than cross them off completely because you can’t afford to pay for their dates.
Q: Is it tacky to have a cash bar? A: At a formal event, it’s usually not acceptable to make guests pay for anything. Instead, try having a limited bar with beer and wine or an open bar for the cocktail hour.
These wediquette answers are only suggestions! Always remember that it’s your wedding and you make the rules. It’s always safe to stick with tradition, but don’t be afraid to change a few conventions if it means staying within your budget and having the wedding you want!
“Wediquette” 101, Plus Answers to YOUR Questions!
When it comes to weddings, there are plenty of chances for mistakes and many questions to be answered, whether they are about tradition, etiquette or something else. Some brides and grooms ditch the rules altogether, while others want to stick with tradition and do things as expected. We asked our Palm Beach Brides Facebook fans to give us their best “wediquette” questions and promised an answer, so here they are!
Facebook fan Tara Pregnolato asked:
What’s an acceptable time frame for sending the ‘Thank yous’ after the wedding? 3 months? 6 months?
According to Wedding Paper Divas, Tara’s question is quite common! They say a bride and groom should not wait longer than six to eight weeks after the ceremony to send out their thanks you cards. If you receive gifts in the mail prior to the wedding, you should consider sending thank you cards to those guests as soon as the gifts arrive. A great suggestion is to set a goal of how many cards to write per day—and then they will be done before you know it!
And Facebook fan Stacy Tibbetts Stine asked:
“…I was wondering what other couples may have done to honor parents that have passed.”
Weddings are already emotional events, and celebrating such a special day after losing a parent can be tough. Many couples choose to honor their deceased parents, either at the ceremony or reception.
Here are some suggestions from Carley Roney, editor-in-chief of The Knot on how to honor deceased parents or other relatives:
· Include a poem or story about you parent in your ceremony program or hand-out
· “Save a seat” for them in the front row at your ceremony, designated with a single bloom
· Include a story about them in your toast
· Wear something from them, or incorporate it into your bouquet
· Choose one of their favorite songs to be played either at the ceremony or reception
· Include photos of them and memorial candles on your sign-in table
Here are some other common wedding etiquette questions and answers:
Q:Can I invite someone to the bridal shower but not the wedding?
A: Everyone invited to the shower should be invited to celebrate at the wedding as well. Usually the shower guests are the close friends and family of the bride and groom.
Q: Should we let single wedding guests bring a date?
A: This question has been debated time and time again. If you budget allows, you should let single guests bring a date if it makes them more comfortable. If you are on a tight budget, it’s better to invite single guests than cross them off completely because you can’t afford to pay for their dates.
Q: Is it tacky to have a cash bar?
A: At a formal event, it’s usually not acceptable to make guests pay for anything. Instead, try having a limited bar with beer and wine or an open bar for the cocktail hour.
These wediquette answers are only suggestions! Always remember that it’s your wedding and you make the rules. It’s always safe to stick with tradition, but don’t be afraid to change a few conventions if it means staying within your budget and having the wedding you want!
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